What does it actually mean to be your true authentic self?
Does it mean you let others see your shadow side?
Do you let people see the times you are snippy for no real reason, or the times you feel overwhelmed so you act kind of shity?
Do you let people see your tears, emotions, anxiety, and fears?
Do you let them see the you that complains about those around you, or the you that tacks on a negative comment about someone in a conversation?
What about the you who doesn’t follow through? Who chooses not to answer the phone, or a text, or an email.
The you who will avoid goodbyes– both temporary and more permanent.
The you who consumes way more caffeine, sugar, chocolate, and carbs than she should.
Or is too lazy to shower and put on real pants.
The you, who in her mind, isn’t nearly as nice as she seems– but also loves way deeper than she knows how to convey most of the time.
The you who is a constant, beautiful, perfect work in progress.
We might not want to talk about our dark shadowy side– but the best way to our best self is by shining a light on the dark. You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge and accept.
You are not broken. You are human.
A multifaceted being with layers upon layers of self that have built up over your lifetime. A combination of your genes, your environment, your stories, your experiences. The ideals of your family, friends, teachers, coworkers, and even your enemies and bullies. The books you’ve read, the movies you’ve watched, and the music you’ve listened to. The challenges you’ve faced and the easy roads you’ve walked.
Authenticity is being willing to share both your bright radiant self and your dark shadowy self.
Those who matter will love the whole with you. Those who don’t love the whole you aren’t worth your fucks.
🤍 amanda maureen